Today, we are celebrating Thanksgiving “en famille” with the four of us, dear husband, dear children and me. Dear daughter already ate half of the Thanksgiving dessert... so what? With autism we learn not to sweat the small stuff.

Today, we have so many thanks to give to our wonderful autism community that I do not know where to start.

I used to not like Thanksgiving because I had nothing to be thankful for with autism in our lives. I was reeling with bitterness and negativeness especially when I kept hearing all those wonderful success stories from neurotypical children. I would keep asking myself, why me? over and over. Hey, we are all humans.

I remember that particular time when a dear friend was bursting with pride about his gorgeous daughter who graduated from high school with honors and won a scholarship to study for free at a University. I was happy for him but I was also stabbed deeply in my heart. It brought back painful memories. Such as my very first IEP (Individual Education Plan) meeting when all the "specialists" looked at me as if I was insane (I am not insane just passionate). Blame it on the French, Spanish and Italian blood flowing in my veins. Instead of talking about immediate goals for my son who could barely speak at that time and was happily spinning in a corner, I was asking about where they had high schools in our State to prepare for international
baccalaureate. They told me that it was not the topic of the meeting and made me understand that I was unrealistic and that I should not harbor such ludicrous ideas.

Deep inside me, I thought, you watch and we will show you...
Well we did show them. The day before Thanksgiving Holidays, my son called me from school and said with his sweet little voice “Mommy, I won the Science Fair. I guess I must be awesome. Are you picking me up or I am taking the school bus home?”.

Yes, my son is awesome and if I had listened to all those naysayers, he would not be where he is now and he would not keep progressing despite a few bumps on the road.

I don’t consider him “recovered” and I find this term quite disturbing because there is not such a thing as “recovered”. Recovered from what? According to what? However, I do consider him “significantly improved” and I will take that any day to be thankful forever.

Our children are beautiful, smart and I encourage all of the parents to never, never, NEVER give up. There is light at the end of the tunnel for all of our children.

Why settle for the Boone’s Farm when you can give your child Chateau Rothschild.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and to your loved ones!

Christine Roffi
Wines for Autism, Founder

Hi Christine

It looks as though you had a wonderful Thanksgiving that's great!

When I was reading your blog a memory emerged from my past; a very close friend of mine commented on my statement "why me." Rhonda she said "why not you? At first, I was taken back by her comment. Later in the day, as I reflected on our conversation, I thought about Gandi's Quote: "Be the change you want to see in the world." When I read these blogs, I notice that all the parents have common traits; Strength, Courage, Determination, Drive, Passion, and the Willingness to go to any length to help our children succeed. We are individuals that will create change, some of the changes will be small and some will be monumental.....
I really believe these children were given to us in order to change our world... Call me crazy, but my child actually made me STOP and smell the roses, I had no choice in the matter. I had to stand up and fight for the rights of my child, educate neighbors, school staff, and people that were staring at my child in Target and Walmart during massive meltdowns. It was me who helped them understand autism's behaviors, making it easier for my child and other children with autism to live life. At one point in my life I didn't have any idea what real love was.... I learned though my son, what it is to really love another human being fully and unconditionally no matter what the conditions....To me that is a miracle. I too am grateful the universe chose me to play a small part in the changing the world......

Hi Rhonda OMG! I love your

Hi Rhonda
OMG! I love your post!!!
You are SO right about why we were given the children we have and hopefully we can make a change in our world no matter how small it is. Autism has also taught me simplicity, humility and integrity and REAL love thanks to my son.
Namaste :)!


Maybe...... I will alter it a bit and post it as a blog! (: